Well, it’s almost our six month blogiversary, and we decided that it’s high time to answer a question that almost none of you have asked. That question is: What’s up with the no last names thing and using the kids’ initials? Who are you and why can’t we know EVERYTHING about you? Well, here’s the deal.
We are Jacqueline and Juliana, and those are our real names. We are new at this blogging thing, and we are trying to create a space that is honest and relatable and funny, and we are even willing to occasionally make ourselves emotionally vulnerable, but we are at the same time wanting to do what’s best for our families and our careers.
I (Jac) want to be a writer/editor, and I am happy to get my name “out there,” but I am aware of the fact that the internet is forever, and google is smart. I don’t want one of my daughters to be applying for a job and to have a post about how she was tough to potty train come up in a quick search of her name. So whenever I write something online that requires a last name (like this, or this), I’m using my maiden name. And the kids’ names are not a secret or anything, so if we let them slip a few times, that’s okay. I rather like their names, actually; I picked them out, even. But it’s about decreasing google-ability so my stories don’t have to become their stories quite so easily.
Juli has all these same reasons as well, only also: did you know she’s a therapist? Like a REAL one. And she doesn’t want her clients to judge her therapist capabilities based on her ability (or lack thereof) to be a perfect parent, so keeping her hobby and her career somewhat separate is just kind of a wise idea. Even though she does readily admit to her clients and friends that she is not perfect, of course, and regularly jokes that others should “do as I say, not as I do.” Also, I don’t think people will judge her counselling skills because she’s not a very good COOK. Anyway, sometimes it’s impossible for her to turn her expertise and experience OFF when she’s blogging, as it is an integral part of who she is, and sometimes it makes its way into her posts, as you will see in her next (rather wonderful) post about bullying.
Some of you reading this are probably thinking, “They are ridiculous. They are still posting pictures of their children, and telling us what cities they live in, and making their whole lives public!” Others of you are saying, “They are ridiculous. For pete’s sake, it’s 2014. EVERYONE is online now; it’s just the way it is! Being so cautious is completely unnecessary.”
Well, you could be right, either one of you. We are just bumbling along here, figuring out the interweb as we go, and having a great ol’ time.